This week's topic: What aspects of your parents' parenting do you want to continue in parenting your own kid(s)?If my home were hit by some Freaky Friday type twister-oo and my mom and I were swapped 29 years, she'd be my age and mothering my daughter. I'd be 30 and mothering well, myself. And you wouldn't.be.able.to.tell.us.apart. I completely and totally model my parenting by what my mom and dad did. I figure they raised two smart, strong, successful kids (toot, toot), so if I do exactly what they did, I will end up with the same results.
I am so grateful to have a set of parents that I want to model after. I know many are not as lucky. As a I learn and grow as a mom, I hope that I will be able to add in my own twist to the methods. Some things will absolutely remain the same. Here is a list:
- Bedtime. I had a bedtime until literally 11th grade. Eleventh grade. And it was embarrassingly early. Like 9pm. But I did well in school, I can't remember ever falling asleep in class, and I was a relatively well rested, pleasant teenager to be around. Perhaps it wasn't the sleep that caused all this. However, there are a "couple" articles/research studies/experiments that document the benefits of a good night's sleep.
- NOT grounding. I was never once grounded. My parents didn't believe in it. I don't know why. I've never asked. (We are having dinner there tonight. Hello, dinner conversation.) It sure seemed to work though! The bro (he needs a baseball related nn) and I were never arrested, suspended, or otherwise in serious trouble.
- Teaching financial freedom. I had to take classes in school. I had to save a percentage of all gift money. I did not receive an allowance. I may handle this differently than my parents, but it is so important to teach children how to manage money!
- Be a parent. I feel it now, but I never once recall feeling like my parents were my friends. I felt loved, appreciated, valued. But I had rules, restrictions, privileges, and consequences.
- Brag. Just enough. Just within earshot. Just the truth.
I wonder a) how my husband would respond to the same question. He and I had very different childhoods. His mom and dad used different methods and also raised smart, strong, successful children. b) how he'd respond to my answers. I don't agree with a lot of methods his parents used and I am sure he's not in love with all of my parents' ideas either. I am a stay at home mom, so I spend the majority of the time with the All Star. I need to do a better job of making sure the Head Coach and I are on the same page. His ideas are important too.